Accidentally Gay: The True Love Story When a Wife Becomes a Husband

To really understand how I feel about this book, you have to know a few things about me. I started my medical transition at 15. I was attacked, raped, abused, and other not fun words or activities. I am pretty much still convinced that no one will ever love me, partially because I am trans. I am loud, bigger than I seem (I often get remarks that people expected me to be taller), and I probably would be really good friends with Wolsey. The book is formatted so a post or at least part of a post from their blog is first, then an updated by Lucky, then an update by Wolsey. It really told a powerful story of love. Lucky did what so many believed was impossible, he loved his partner unconditionally. Wolsey won the love lottery. Their story is just so touching, especially for a trans guy that has seen and lived some of the worse experiences with being trans. The ending chapter was about their 25th wedding anniversary. I just can't even. Their love is enviable and the stuff of fairy tales. I did feel a lot of emotions through the book. I understood the amazing relationship they had in small flashes of my own life. I have never had a partner that wasn't also trans that understood how important my transition was to me, until my current partner. My current partner stayed by me when my T dose got jacked up because of insurance, which put me at double the dose I should be on and back on a method that caused me side effects that meant bleeding, intense anger issues, and more. He now gives me my injections so I don't have to face doing it myself. I have never trusted anyone else to inject me, though to be fair the nurses I had inject me weren't the best and consistently hit the nerve that took a leg out of commission for a week. The fact that Wolsey had that support for his whole transition just warms my heart in a way that I didn't think was possible anymore. All the horror stories have numbed me I fear. This is the story I want younger guys to see. This is the story I want people of all genders to see. This is what should be held as a gold standard of love. I want people to believe they deserve love and commitment. I want Lucky and Wolsey to be the norm, instead of the exception. Lucky has created a resource for partners of trans people. That is a huge thing. Partners just don't get the support they need. They are transitioning right along with us, but they aren't seen or heard. This is an important thing to remember. The support system needs support or there is no support.

Having been through a transition with a family member, I recognized many of the author's viewpoints and ultimate understanding. Well written and organized to flow well. I appreciate that the author took the time to present the feelings and thoughts as they arose but then provided current updates about his and his husband's understanding of one another.